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What makes us leave what we love best?
What is it inside us that keeps erasing itself
When we need it most,
That sends us into uncertainty for its own sake
And holds us flush there
until we begin to love it
And have to begin again?
[…]
I still don’t know yet, but I do it.
– Charles Wright, “25 – 29 August 1984,” The World of the Ten Thousand Things: Poems 1980-1990. (Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1991)

How Many Have You Seen? Read Bill Hader's List Of 200 Movies Every Comedy Writer Should See

This is why you shouldn't click on the naked photos of Jennifer Lawrence

fabulouslyfreespirited:

If you deliberately seek out any of these images, you are directly participating in the violation not just of numerous women’s privacy but also of their bodies.

1. This is not a ‘scandal’

It’s a crime, and we should be discussing it as such. Some media outlets are salaciously reporting it otherwise, as if the illegal violation of privacy involving intimate images is little more than subject for gossip. When associated with sex, the word ‘scandal’ has been typically interpreted as something that assigns responsibility to all parties involved, a consensual act unfortunately discovered and for which everyone owes an explanation or apology. Remember when private nude photos of Vanessa Hudgens (whose name also appears on the list of victims) were leaked online and Disney forced her to publicly apologise for her “lapse in judgment” and hoped she had “learned a valuable lesson”? Never mind that Hudgens was an adult and a victim of privacy violation - the ‘scandal’ was painted as something for which she owed her fans an apology. Which leads us to:

2. These women do not ‘only have themselves to blame’

While depressing, it’s sadly unsurprising to see some people arguing that Lawrence et al brought this on themselves. Part of living in a rape culture is the ongoing expectation that women are responsible for protecting themselves from abuse, and that means avoiding behaviour which might be later ‘exploited’ by the people who are conveniently never held to account for their actions. But women are entitled to consensually engage in their sexuality any way they see fit. If that involves taking nude self portraits for the enjoyment of themselves or consciously selected others, that’s their prerogative.

Victims of crime do not have an obligation to accept dual responsibility for that crime. Women who take nude photographs of themselves are not committing a criminal act, and they shouldn’t ‘expect’ to become victims to one, as actress Mary E. Winstead pointed out on Twitter. 

Sending a photograph of your breasts to one person isn’t consenting to having the whole world see those breasts, just as consenting to sex with one person isn’t the same as giving permission for everyone else to fu*k you. Victim blaming isn’t okay, even if it does give you a private thrill to humiliate the female victims of sexual exploitation.

3. It doesn’t matter that ‘damn, she looks good and should own it!’

Stealing and sharing the private photographs of women doesn’t become less of a crime just because you approve them for fapping activity. I’m sure many of the women on this list are confident of their sexual attractiveness. It doesn’t mean they don’t value their privacy or shouldn’t expect to enjoy the same rights to it as everyone else. It also doesn’t mean they want strangers sweating over their images. That line of thinking comes from the same school which instructs women to either ignore of welcome sexual harassment when it’s seemingly ‘positive’ in its sentiments.

None of these women are likely to give a shit that you think their bodies are ‘tight, damn’. Despite what society reinforces to us about the public ownership of women’s bodies, we are not entitled to co-opt and objectify them just because we think we can defend it as a compliment.

[…] I hope sincerely that more people take a stand against this kind of behaviour.

[…]It strikes me as deeply ironic that we will vehemently protest a free Facebook messenger app because we’re outraged at reports that it can access our phone’s numbers, and yet turn around and excuse the serving up of women’s bodies for our own pleasure. Our appreciation is no less disgusting just because it’s accompanied by the sound of one hand clapping.

Source: Clementine Ford at DailyLife

(via lifeascaty)

Happy labour day! / Don’t add me on snapchat #askstevie #asknancy

Happy labour day! / Don’t add me on snapchat #askstevie #asknancy

OOH BABY BABY IT’S A WILD / WEIRD / MAD WORLD

That’s what careless words do. They make people love you a little less.
We can’t selectively numb emotion. Numb the dark and you numb the light.
– Brené Brown, Daring Greatly  (via thatkindofwoman)

(Source: pureblyss, via fuckyeahexistentialism)

Marc Maron popping my iTunes TV cherry because nobody posts torrents of Maron. Sorry, dude. #maron

Marc Maron popping my iTunes TV cherry because nobody posts torrents of Maron. Sorry, dude. #maron

Pretty jazzed about the death of skinny jeans. #notdimsum

Pretty jazzed about the death of skinny jeans. #notdimsum

Sandro Perri - Double Suicide (Tiny Mirrors, 2007)

And more Sandro Perri because I fucking love Sandro Perri. Tiny Mirrors is an album you should own if you don’t and if you don’t know, now you know. 

Sandro Perri - Dreams (Sandro Perri and Friends - European Tour, 2007)

What makes us leave what we love best?
What is it inside us that keeps erasing itself
When we need it most,
That sends us into uncertainty for its own sake
And holds us flush there
until we begin to love it
And have to begin again?
[…]
I still don’t know yet, but I do it.
– Charles Wright, “25 – 29 August 1984,” The World of the Ten Thousand Things: Poems 1980-1990. (Farrar, Straus and Giroux, 1991)

How Many Have You Seen? Read Bill Hader's List Of 200 Movies Every Comedy Writer Should See

This is why you shouldn't click on the naked photos of Jennifer Lawrence

fabulouslyfreespirited:

If you deliberately seek out any of these images, you are directly participating in the violation not just of numerous women’s privacy but also of their bodies.

1. This is not a ‘scandal’

It’s a crime, and we should be discussing it as such. Some media outlets are salaciously reporting it otherwise, as if the illegal violation of privacy involving intimate images is little more than subject for gossip. When associated with sex, the word ‘scandal’ has been typically interpreted as something that assigns responsibility to all parties involved, a consensual act unfortunately discovered and for which everyone owes an explanation or apology. Remember when private nude photos of Vanessa Hudgens (whose name also appears on the list of victims) were leaked online and Disney forced her to publicly apologise for her “lapse in judgment” and hoped she had “learned a valuable lesson”? Never mind that Hudgens was an adult and a victim of privacy violation - the ‘scandal’ was painted as something for which she owed her fans an apology. Which leads us to:

2. These women do not ‘only have themselves to blame’

While depressing, it’s sadly unsurprising to see some people arguing that Lawrence et al brought this on themselves. Part of living in a rape culture is the ongoing expectation that women are responsible for protecting themselves from abuse, and that means avoiding behaviour which might be later ‘exploited’ by the people who are conveniently never held to account for their actions. But women are entitled to consensually engage in their sexuality any way they see fit. If that involves taking nude self portraits for the enjoyment of themselves or consciously selected others, that’s their prerogative.

Victims of crime do not have an obligation to accept dual responsibility for that crime. Women who take nude photographs of themselves are not committing a criminal act, and they shouldn’t ‘expect’ to become victims to one, as actress Mary E. Winstead pointed out on Twitter. 

Sending a photograph of your breasts to one person isn’t consenting to having the whole world see those breasts, just as consenting to sex with one person isn’t the same as giving permission for everyone else to fu*k you. Victim blaming isn’t okay, even if it does give you a private thrill to humiliate the female victims of sexual exploitation.

3. It doesn’t matter that ‘damn, she looks good and should own it!’

Stealing and sharing the private photographs of women doesn’t become less of a crime just because you approve them for fapping activity. I’m sure many of the women on this list are confident of their sexual attractiveness. It doesn’t mean they don’t value their privacy or shouldn’t expect to enjoy the same rights to it as everyone else. It also doesn’t mean they want strangers sweating over their images. That line of thinking comes from the same school which instructs women to either ignore of welcome sexual harassment when it’s seemingly ‘positive’ in its sentiments.

None of these women are likely to give a shit that you think their bodies are ‘tight, damn’. Despite what society reinforces to us about the public ownership of women’s bodies, we are not entitled to co-opt and objectify them just because we think we can defend it as a compliment.

[…] I hope sincerely that more people take a stand against this kind of behaviour.

[…]It strikes me as deeply ironic that we will vehemently protest a free Facebook messenger app because we’re outraged at reports that it can access our phone’s numbers, and yet turn around and excuse the serving up of women’s bodies for our own pleasure. Our appreciation is no less disgusting just because it’s accompanied by the sound of one hand clapping.

Source: Clementine Ford at DailyLife

(via lifeascaty)

Happy labour day! / Don’t add me on snapchat #askstevie #asknancy

Happy labour day! / Don’t add me on snapchat #askstevie #asknancy

OOH BABY BABY IT’S A WILD / WEIRD / MAD WORLD

That’s what careless words do. They make people love you a little less.
#heymama

#heymama

Well played.

Well played.

We can’t selectively numb emotion. Numb the dark and you numb the light.
– Brené Brown, Daring Greatly  (via thatkindofwoman)

(Source: pureblyss, via fuckyeahexistentialism)

Marc Maron popping my iTunes TV cherry because nobody posts torrents of Maron. Sorry, dude. #maron

Marc Maron popping my iTunes TV cherry because nobody posts torrents of Maron. Sorry, dude. #maron

Pretty jazzed about the death of skinny jeans. #notdimsum

Pretty jazzed about the death of skinny jeans. #notdimsum

Sandro Perri - Double Suicide (Tiny Mirrors, 2007)

And more Sandro Perri because I fucking love Sandro Perri. Tiny Mirrors is an album you should own if you don’t and if you don’t know, now you know. 

Sandro Perri - Dreams (Sandro Perri and Friends - European Tour, 2007)

"What makes us leave what we love best?
What is it inside us that keeps erasing itself
When we need it most,
That sends us into uncertainty for its own sake
And holds us flush there
until we begin to love it
And have to begin again?
[…]
I still don’t know yet, but I do it."
"That’s what careless words do. They make people love you a little less."
"We can’t selectively numb emotion. Numb the dark and you numb the light."

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Observation Miscellany by
Amelia M. Egan